Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all? Who didn’t see Disney’s evil queen ask that question? Who didn’t fret over the fate of innocent beauty Snow White? Well, there are several new movies out, playing with a new look for both Snow and the Evil Q., but what doesn’t change is fading beauty and how a woman deals with that, and how society feels about beautiful women, especially if they’re powerful and aging. Our local paper ran a story about such, and it made me wonder…..does a fading beauty always have to envy a newer one? Why do some of us hang on to beauty to the point of turning ourselves into grotesque caricatures? It is hard to face the loss of youthful beauty. We women are all more lovely than we realize. But we can’t know it or feel it with the barrage of how we should look always before us. I didn’t realize the power of beauty until it was changing. I didn’t realize how much I’d depended on it. I didn’t realize that almost any interaction with a man began, for me, with unconsciously determining whether he found me attractive. There’s a power that comes with being attractive.

That’s gone for me. I’ve mourned it, but I really don’t miss it. I like the independence I feel inside. I like facing the fact of my aging, accepting it. I don’t mind the beauty of younger women, and I know the beauty of older women. When you’re older, it’s what you do, how you interact with others, that is the measure of beauty. That’s a better measure than the angles of one’s face and hips, a more sacred, difficult one….one to aspire to.

And we sure don’t need no stinkin’ apples. They always get us into trouble………….


6 responses to “apples

  1. Aging is a difficult process. I believe that we all fight it using as many wrinkle creams as possible, tinting our hair, purchasing eyewear that enables us to appear young, exercising at the fitness centers, and continuing to dress youthfully instead of matronly. I have been at war with myself about letting my hair be its own natural color now that it is nearly white, or continuing to tint it with hair coloring…Nothing disturbs me more than seeing myself in all white hair as I had once looked at my grandmother…It is my real flaw in this aging process, succumbing to it.

  2. by now it’s about looking as good as we can “for our age” by staying healthy, eating right, exercising and using as much possible moisturizer was we can get onto our faces!

  3. When I think of fading beauty, I remember Georgia O’Keefe. Some would say she was homely, especially after she hit late middle age. She didn’t attempt “beauty” by the standards of her day – even when she was young. A famous photographer (can’t recall his name) said she was the only woman he EVER photographed who didn’t first run to a mirror to put on lipstick and primp a little.

  4. Suzie Jennings

    It’s funny to read this and think about the fact that every time I look at you, I think of how beautiful I think you are. Always have, for 15 years now….

  5. J Ryan Bartoli

    Truer words were never spoken.
    Beauty is indeed only skin deep and we all know that aging skin is very

  6. Boy, I can relate to that! Thanks for putting it in such a lovely way. Thanks for sharing yourself.

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